Reignite Your Business Spark With Human Design

Hey there and welcome back to Human Design Advantage. I'm Stefanie, your go-to Human Design Business Coach. And if you are feeling bored, burned out, or like your business has lost its magic… this episode is for you.

We are going to talk about how to reignite your spark using Human Design — but not in the usual "alignment" or "energetic flow" kind of way. I want to show you how your design holds specific keys to your creative fire, your momentum, and yes, your excitement.

And I’ll be using my own design along the way as an example, because I’ve been in this exact space recently — where my podcast, something I love, started to feel flat. It wasn’t about quitting, it was about realigning... and sparking it back to life through my actual blueprint.

Let’s get into it.

PART 1: Your Profile Line Holds the Spark Formula

Every Profile Line has a unique way it gets reignited. When you're disconnected from that, everything starts to feel like a grind. So here’s how to find your spark based on your conscious line — that’s the first number in your Profile.

• Line 1 – The Investigator
  You feel alive when you're deep in the research. You need to understand something fully to get your energy back. If business feels off, go deeper. Don’t surface-scroll your strategy. Study. Master. Build your confidence from facts. That’s your fuel.

• Line 2 – The Hermit
  Your spark returns in quiet. You need space, not strategy. Your talent comes out when you stop trying to prove and let yourself get called out. Turn off the noise. Go where it’s effortless. That’s where your magnetism lives.

• Line 3 – The Martyr
  Like me — you get your spark through experimentation. If you’re stuck, it’s because you're stuck in perfectionism. Get messy. Launch the thing. Scrap it. Rebuild it. Iterate. The more you move, the more you light up.

• Line 4 – The Opportunist
  You’re reignited through people. If your spark is gone, check your connections. Are you isolated? You thrive when you’re in conversation, building community, or sharing something that excites you.

• Line 5 – The Heretic
  You’re lit up when you solve problems. But the spark dies when you’re trying to live up to everyone’s projections. You need to serve with a real solution, not just be everyone’s savior. Own your message and make it practical.

• Line 6 – The Role Model
  Your spark comes from observation. You may feel out of sync when you’re rushing or forcing. You’re here to lead from wisdom. Step back. Watch. Then guide from the clarity that follows. You don’t need to push to inspire.

So right now, ask yourself: where are you out of sync with the natural mode of your Profile?

PART 2: Vibe of Your Tribe

Let’s go a layer deeper.

Your Vibe of Tribe shows what your people need to hear from you to feel lit up. And when you speak in that vibe, you get lit up too.

Mine is Line 1. That means I attract people who are feeling insecure, unsure, and looking for a foundation to stand on. I don’t help them "align." I help them get certain. I bring clarity, frameworks, and focus.

That’s how I spark both them and me.

What’s yours? Speak in that frequency and your whole brand reignites.

PART 3: Environmental Nodes

These show the kind of environment and rhythm that help your spark thrive.

For me:

• Gate 35: I need variety and fresh experiences.

• Gate 5: I need consistent rituals and timing.

Spark killer? Same old, same old.
Spark activator? Purposeful shifts. Routine that flows with my rhythms, not against them.

If you’re feeling uninspired, look at whether you’re resisting the change or trying to over-control your timing.

PART 4: Your Type

Your Type is your access point to consistent creative energy.

As a Manifesting Generator, I know my spark doesn’t come from pushing. It comes from responding. From doing what lights me up now — even if I pivot tomorrow.

Generators: your spark returns when you do what lights you up without guilt.
Projectors: your spark returns when you wait for the right invitation and stop forcing.
Manifestors: your spark returns when you inform and initiate what you want.
Reflectors: your spark returns when you stop trying to be consistent and start syncing with your environment.

OUTRO + CTA

So there it is. Your spark isn’t gone. It’s just hidden under strategies that don’t fit your design.

Here’s what I want you to do:
DM me on Instagram with your Profile, or Type, or Vibe of Tribe line. I want to hear which part of this episode made you go: “Wait... that’s why I’ve been stuck.”

And if you’re ready to reignite all of it — your niche, your message, your offer, your marketing — through your design... let’s work together.

You can find the link in the show notes or at [your site].

This is your business.
Your design.
Your spark.
Let’s bring it back.

Talk to you next time on Human Design Advantage.

“The Truth No One’s Telling You About Business in 2026”

Hey friend — welcome back to the podcast.
Today I’m going to say some things that most coaches won’t tell you…
Not because they’re trying to be dishonest, but because a lot of the business world has been built on the idea of “fast wins,” “easy blueprints,” and “10K in 10 weeks” promises.

But I’m not here to sell you fantasy.

I’m here to help you evolve.

And what I’m about to say — especially as we step into 2026 — is something I wish every woman in business heard before spinning her wheels, burning herself out, or wondering if she’s the problem.

Because you’re not.

But you do have to get honest.

PART 1: THE MYTH OF THE OVERNIGHT SHIFT

Here’s the truth:
Your business challenges? They’re not random.
And they’re not going away because you set a goal or picked a “word of the year.”

They’re coming with you — unless you evolve.
Unless you shift the root of how you lead, decide, sell, rest, create, and scale.

And that’s where Human Design comes in.

Not as a magic wand.
Not as a pretty chart.
But as your blueprint for navigating every part of business differently.

So if you’ve been telling yourself “next year will be better” — but still trying to build your business from strategy-first, pressure-first, prove-yourself energy?

I want you to pause and ask:
What am I really willing to do differently?

PART 2: EVOLUTION VS EASY

I work with women who are ready to evolve — not just get quick wins.
Because yes, Human Design makes everything clearer.
It makes your decisions cleaner.
It helps you avoid burnout.
It lets you scale without self-betrayal.

But it’s not a light switch.
You don’t flip it on and magically become fully aligned.

It takes at least a couple months of actually integrating your design —
In your offers.
Your content.
Your calendar.
Your sales process.
Your decisions.

That’s not a limitation — that’s a gift.

Because once you do this…
The results last.
You’re not rebuilding your business every quarter.
You’re not launching from fear.
You’re not wondering if you’re made for this.

You know.
You feel it.

PART 3: YOU’RE NOT HERE TO PLAY SMALL

And if you’re still listening to this?

That tells me one thing:
You’re not here to play small.

You’re here to disrupt.
To help people your way.
To stop building from conditioning, and finally create from clarity.

You got your chart for a reason.
You’ve felt the pull toward alignment for a reason.
This isn’t about fluff. This is your edge.

Your 2026 business will still have challenges — because that’s what entrepreneurship is.
But your ability to handle them, move through them, and GROW because of them?

That’s what your Human Design unlocks.

That’s the difference between a business that keeps circling the same patterns…
And one that evolves with you.

So here’s your honest invitation:
2026 isn’t going to be a walk in the park.
But it can be the year you stop fighting yourself.
The year you stop looking for the next hack…
…and finally start building a business that fits YOU.

And if that’s what you want?

You’re in the right place.

Let’s make 2026 the year you lead from your design — not your doubt.

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My Museum of Business Failures That Ended Up Working Out!

Hey, welcome back. This one is for the ones who’ve been doing "all the right things" in business… and still feeling off.

You know how sometimes you look back at the way you started and think: "WHAT was I doing?"

That’s me. With almost everything I did in the beginning.

But now? I call it my Museum of Misguided Moves — the things I did in business that looked like failures… but actually helped me come home to my Human Design and create everything I have now.

Because I’m a 3rd line — and that means I’m here to learn by trial and error. I’m here to try it all, to touch the stove, to fall down, get back up, and teach from experience — not theory. And if you’ve got that 3rd line in you too? This episode is going to set you free.

So let’s take a little walk through my personal museum.

Exhibit One: The Great Checklist Obsession

I trusted everyone else's formulas, funnels, and checklists.
I downloaded every freebie.
I bought every blueprint.
I followed every guru’s “proven method.”

And in doing that? I completely abandoned my own inner knowing. I tuned out the voice that already knew the answer.

Looking back — this was me ignoring my Sacral authority and outsourcing my power.

But I had to go there… because now I help clients skip that. Because it’s written in my design: I’m built to learn the hard way so I can make the way easier for others.

Exhibit Two: Collaboration Overkill

I said yes to every collaboration.
Every summit, bundle, guest spot, partnership — if someone asked, I said yes.

Because I thought it was what we were supposed to do to grow.

But the truth is — my design is highly individual.

Too much collaboration actually shut off my magic.
It diluted my voice.
It kept me from finding the clarity that ONLY comes when I create on my own first.

Exhibit Three: Chasing External Validation

I lived for the next milestone.
The next rank.
The next launch.
The next income goal.

I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was using those wins to prove something — instead of feeling rooted in my own worth.

That came from the open Heart center in my chart — always feeling like I had to prove I was capable.

Now I know better. And now I coach from that lived experience.

Exhibit Four: Viral Trend Trap

I tried every viral trend.
I twisted my content to fit what was "working."
I wrote hooks that weren’t mine.
I made reels I hated just to keep up.

And guess what? None of them landed the way I hoped.

Because they weren’t ME.
Because I have a defined Throat and Gate 20 — my power is in my voice and my truth, not mimicry.

The moment I stopped following trends and started trusting my response? Everything changed.

Exhibit Five: The Opinion Spiral

I asked everyone else what I should do.
I’d have an idea… then immediately question it.

I’d ask in Voxer. I’d text a biz friend. I’d poll my coach.

Because I didn’t trust my own clarity.

This was me overriding my Authority — and forgetting that my design was already telling me exactly what to do.

Most of the time when we feel stuck? It’s not because we don’t know… it’s because we’re scared of what we already know.

Exhibit Six: Course Hoarding & Knowledge Collecting

Line 1 things, right?

I bought courses I never opened.
I thought, “If I just learn more I’ll finally feel ready.”

But my Line 5 needed more than knowledge — it needed integration.
It needed to use what I learned.
And once I understood that, I stopped learning just to cope with fear — and started applying what actually felt aligned.

Exhibit Seven: Launching From Pressure

I launched from panic.
I launched because someone else was.
I launched because I thought I was "behind."

And it always led to burnout.

This came from my open Root — chasing pressure instead of pacing myself.

Now I teach people to launch from desire — from truth. From energy that actually lasts.

Final Room: What It All Taught Me

Every mistake was an initiation.
Every misstep was wisdom in disguise.

Because my design literally says: You’re going to fail more than most — so others don’t have to.

So if you’ve been hard on yourself for the path you took, let this episode be your permission slip.

You didn’t mess up.
You were learning.
And now? You get to lead.

Wrap-Up:
If you loved this episode and want to explore your own business museum — and how your Human Design explains exactly why those things didn’t work — book a Business By Design call with me. The link is in the show notes.

And if you’re a Line 1, Line 3, or Manifesting Generator? I especially made this for you.

Thanks for listening — now go honor the business you’re designed to build.

Two Versions of Your 2026 Business (And You’re Already Choosing One)

Today I don’t want to talk about fixing you, or why you’re misaligned, or why the strategies haven’t worked.

You’ve heard all of that. You already know it.

Today I want to talk about two different versions of your 2026 business.
Because whether it feels like it or not, you’re already choosing one of them.

One version is the business that happens by default.
The other is the business you build by design.

And your Human Design isn’t just a cute add-on in that story – it’s the difference between the two.

🔹 The default 2026

Let’s start with the default version of your 2026.

This is the version where you keep doing what you’re doing now:
– You know your type, maybe your profile, you follow some HD accounts…
– You understand why certain things haven’t worked…
– But your business is still being run mostly by: trends, urgency, and what you think you ‘should’ do.

In this 2026, your business might technically grow…
but your body still tightens when you think about launching.
You still question your offers.
You still get that pit in your stomach when you watch someone else doing it “right” and wonder if you’re behind.

You’re aware of your design…
but you’re not letting it lead.

And that gap – between what you know and what you embody – is where the frustration lives.

🔹The designed 2026

Now let’s look at the other version of 2026.

In this version, your Human Design isn’t just something you know – it’s how you operate. It’s the lens you build everything through.

Your offers are built around your energy, not around what’s trending.
Your marketing is rooted in how your voice is meant to land – whether that’s long-form, quick bursts, speaking, visuals, deep 1:1 connection.
Your schedule actually reflects your nervous system and capacity.
You stop apologizing for the way you work best – and you start designing for it.

This doesn’t mean everything is perfect or magical.
It means your business starts to feel coherent.
What you know about yourself, what you want, and what you’re doing… finally match.

🔹 What actually has to change

This is the part most people skip:

Your 2026 business won’t feel different because you learned more Human Design.

It’ll feel different because you started making different decisions with what you already know.

Things like:
– Saying no to strategies that make your body say “ugh,” even if everyone swears they work.
– Letting your type + strategy actually guide how you create offers and content.
– Trusting your authority more than the next guru swipe file.
– Letting yourself build differently than the coaches you’ve been watching for years.

This is the last year your business gets to be an accident.
2026 is the year it becomes intentional.

For me, losing my dad and watching my old business crumble was my line in the sand.

I realized I was not willing to build another year of my life based on someone else’s idea of success.

Human Design wasn’t just interesting – it was a lifeline.
And the more I’ve built my business from my design, the more obvious it is that I was never meant to do it the old way.

And neither were you.

Here’s what I want for you:

When you look up at the end of 2026, I don’t want you saying,
‘I learned a lot about my design… but I didn’t really use it.’

I want you to feel in your bones,
‘My business finally feels like mine.’
‘The way I create, sell, and serve matches who I am.’
‘This is sustainable. This is me.’

To help you start that shift, I just upgraded the first step completely.

When you download your free Human Design Business Starter Kit, you’ll not only get your chart and 12-page PDF, but a brand new audio where I walk you through the first piece of how your type actually works in business.

And then you’ve got the 9-part audio series waiting for you – where we start pulling the rest of the pieces together.

If 2026 is the year you want your business to finally match your design, start there.

You can grab it at [link], and as always, reply to my emails or DM me on Instagram if something clicks. I love hearing how your chart is landing for you.

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Before you quit your business, try this!

If you’re hearing this…
There’s a good chance you’ve been thinking about walking away from your business.
You’ve tried all the things. You’ve spent the money. You’ve taken the courses.
And still — it feels like you’re pushing a boulder uphill.

Maybe you’re exhausted.
Maybe you’re starting to wonder if you’re even cut out for this.
Maybe you’ve started whispering the words to yourself:
“Maybe I’m just not meant to be successful.”

And I want to tell you something right now.

Please don’t quit.
The world needs your voice.
Your magic.
The thing only you came here to do.

I know what it feels like to want to burn it all down.
I know what it feels like to question your worth, your power, your path.
I was right there.
And I almost walked away.

I almost gave up coaching.
I almost shut down my business.
I even started looking at job listings for a 9-5 — even though everything in my body told me that was never what I was meant for.

But then something in me whispered:
“Just try one more thing.”

And that one thing… was Human Design.
But not in the fluffy, trendy way you see everywhere.
I actually studied it. I looked at my chart and let it tell me the truth.
I stopped trying to fit myself into a box I was never built for.
I stopped trying to market and sell like everyone else.
And I started building my business in a way that was designed for me.

And it changed everything.

I didn’t just find a new strategy.
I found myself.

So if you’re listening to this right now… I want to tell you something I wish someone had told me:

You are not the problem.
You were never the problem.
You’ve just been building something that wasn’t designed for you.

And if you’re on the edge of quitting…
Let this episode be the moment where everything shifts.

Let this be your one more try.

Not another strategy. Not another formula.
But a real, grounded, loving return to yourself.

Because here’s what I believe with every ounce of my being:
2026 is your year.
If you allow it to be.
If you come home to who you really are.
If you finally stop looking for the answers “out there” and start trusting what’s already inside you.

You are the missing piece in your business.
Not another course. Not another trend.
You.

So before you call it quits… come home to yourself.
You don’t have to burn it all down.
You just have to stop building it like them.

And if you’re ready… I created a free Human Design Business Report and a private 9-part audio series that’s here to help you take your first step back to alignment.

The link is in the show notes — download it, listen to it, and melt into the truth of who you are.

Because your voice matters.
And I’m so, so glad you’re here.

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The Words a Client Spoke That Every Human Being Needs to Hear.

Hey love.
Welcome back to The Human Design Advantage

Today… I want to share something different.
Something real.
Something that hit me so deeply I couldn’t not bring it here.

I got a message from a client and when I read her words, I felt that familiar mix of gratitude, awe, and… honestly?
Relief.

Because every time someone has this moment, I’m reminded why this work matters so damn much.
Why I’m here for this New Era.
Why I can feel the shift happening before most people even notice it.

And I want you to hear what she wrote.

[Warm, grounded tone]

She said:

“I cannot begin to tell you how much I have loved your coaching. I will for sure be doing another 12 weeks with you, in the New Year. Thank you for not making me post more content and message people. Instead you took the time to know my unique Human design chart and helped me build a business off of that. I will tell you, I HAD no idea how many other things you can do to build a business, off social media. My new client is MY person and I owe it to you!  My life and business are forever changed. 

- SAHARA

I had to stop and breathe after reading that.
Because THIS…
this is the shift people don’t even know they’re craving.

Not a better routine.
Not a new habit tracker.
Not a more aesthetic morning ritual.

But to feel like themselves again.

Here’s what happens when your Human Design finally clicks:
your whole life starts making sense in a way you can’t unsee.

It’s not about “alignment” as a buzzword.
It’s about recognition.

That moment when your brain and your body go,
“Oh.
It wasn’t me.
I wasn’t the problem.
My energy just wasn’t meant to live like that.”

Because here’s the truth no one talks about:
Most women aren’t tired because their life is too full.
They’re tired because their life is built from someone else’s blueprint.

Someone else’s pace.
Someone else’s expectations.
Someone else’s definition of success, productivity, discipline, motherhood, entrepreneurship… all of it.

And when you see your design —
when it’s reflected back to you with clarity —
the shame dissolves.

Not because everything gets easy overnight,
but because you finally understand the why.

You understand
why you burned out from things other people thrived in.
why consistency always felt like a trap instead of a skill.
why you felt like you were always one step behind, even when you were doing everything “right.”

You see the real reason:
you were never designed to live the way you were taught to.

And this is why I’m so protective of the work I do.
I don’t teach Human Design as a personality test.
I don’t teach it as aesthetic spirituality.
I teach it as a homecoming.

Because I lived the opposite for most of my life.
I performed.
I overgave.
I tried to be the woman who fit the mold.
I followed every strategy, every rule, every path someone told me “worked.”

And I could build the life — sure.
I could tick the boxes.
But inside, it felt like cardboard.
Flat.
Hollow.
Like I was succeeding at being a version of me that wasn’t even real.

So when I watch someone have this click…
this moment where their life organizes itself into sense —
I know exactly what that feeling is.

It’s remembering.

And maybe you’re listening right now and you’re thinking:

“I want that moment.
I want things to make sense again.
I want to feel like me again.”

You deserve that.
You’re not asking for too much.
You’re not behind.
You’re not lost.

You’re just living in a system that was never built with your wiring in mind.

And that moment — that click — happens when you stop trying to fit your energy into a shape it was never meant to hold.

Here’s the thing:
Your design isn’t about rules.
It’s not about telling you who you should be.

It’s about revealing what you already are.
What you’ve always been.

And when that lands in your body…
you’ll stop fighting yourself.
You’ll stop forcing.
You’ll stop performing.
You’ll stop abandoning the version of you that’s been waiting to be let out.

That’s the moment my client was talking about.
That’s the moment so many women are on the edge of right now.

And if you’re listening to this,
I honestly believe you’re one of them.

If you want to understand your design deeper —
not just as information,
but in a way that rearranges your life into something that feels like you again —
everything you need is in the show notes.

Your chart.
Your reading.
My private audio series.
My 1:1 work.
My course.

But no matter what you choose…

Remember this:
You were never meant to fit into the world as it is.
You’re here to build the new one.
One person, one decision, one moment of self-recognition at a time.

And I’m really, really honored to walk that with you.

The Messy Middle: Why It Feels Like Everything’s Falling Apart (But Isn’t)

Hey, beautiful soul… welcome back to The Human Design Advantage.
Today… we’re going there.
Into the part that no one talks about.
The part between who you were and who you’re becoming…
what I call the messy middle.

It’s the part that doesn’t look pretty on a vision board.
It’s not polished or confident.
It’s the part where you question everything —
the job, the business, the relationships, even yourself.
And yet… it’s the most sacred part of all.

I remember when I was in it.
Everything in my life looked fine from the outside —
the business was running, the boxes were checked,
but inside, something was crumbling.

And then my world actually did crack open —
through loss, through grief, through this deep realization that the life I had built
was built from someone else’s blueprint, not mine.

That was my breaking point…
but also my awakening.

Because it’s in that breaking open that I found Human Design —
and more importantly, I found me.

Not the version of me that had learned how to perform or please.
Not the one who kept everything running while feeling empty inside.
But the one who was wired differently —
the one who was born to lead, to create, to disrupt, to feel deeply,
and to do it all in a way that made sense for my energy.

So if you’re listening right now and you’re in that in-between —
where everything old feels like it’s falling apart
but nothing new has quite landed yet —
I want you to know this:
you’re not failing.
You’re being recalibrated.

The messy middle isn’t proof that you’re lost —
it’s proof that you’re waking up.

Because once you start living your Human Design —
once you start making decisions from your authority instead of fear —
you can’t unknow it.
You can’t go back to sleep.

And that means the parts of your life built from conditioning
will start to shake.
And that shaking?
That’s not destruction.
That’s alignment making room for what’s true.

I feel this shift so strongly right now —
not just in my life, but in the collective.
This is the New Era we’re stepping into.
Where we’re no longer chasing someone else’s definition of success,
but remembering our own.

Where we stop trying to fit into systems that drain us,
and instead, create new ways —
human ways —
that work by design.

That’s why this work matters so much to me.
It’s not about learning Human Design just to understand yourself.
It’s about embodying it so fully that you become an example of what’s possible.

So that your kids see peace instead of pressure.
So your team feels seen, not managed.
So your business becomes an expression of your energy — not a drain on it.

This is what I mean when I say “The New Era.”
It’s not coming.
It’s here.
And you — you’re one of the ones who will feel it first.

So if you’re in that messy middle today…
If you’re holding it all together while secretly wondering when it gets easier —
this is your reminder:

You’re not behind.
You’re not broken.
You’re becoming.

Keep trusting your process.
Keep following what feels like truth, even if it doesn’t make sense yet.
Your design knows the way.
And when you start letting it lead —
everything that’s meant for you will finally have the space to arrive.

If this episode hit home for you,
take a second to pause and breathe that in.

And if you’re ready to understand your own Human Design
and see where you are in your own messy middle —
you can grab your free chart and mini reading in the show notes below.

Until next time —
keep unlearning everything the world told you to be…
and start remembering who you already are.

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What Human Design Actually Says About Social Media

🎙️ Title: What Human Design Really Says About Social Media (It’s Not What You Think)

Today’s episode is for the entrepreneurs, coaches, and creators who feel like social media is suffocating them.

Like… you’re constantly being told to post more, show up more, go live, tell your story, batch a month’s worth of content, and somehow make it all go viral while still running your business and, oh yeah, having a life.

And deep down, you’re wondering, is this really the only way?

Let’s be honest: social media has become this monster of a pressure cooker.

And most of the strategies being taught? They weren’t made for you.

They were made for the person teaching them. For their design. Their energy. Their strategy.

But what if your Human Design is actually trying to tell you something totally different?

Today, I want to walk you through:

• Why your Human Design might not be built for consistent visibility and why that’s not a problem

• How to stop shaming yourself for not being able to keep up with the algorithm

• And how to finally show up in a way that matches your actual energy

Let’s start with this truth:

Social media is not your business. It’s a tool.

And a tool only works when it’s used correctly for the person holding it.

Here’s what I mean…

My first business was built using every content strategy you can imagine. I batched. I showed up every day. I wrote like a machine. And I burned out hard.

And get this: almost none of my actual clients came from social media.

The people who worked with me, who had huge breakthroughs, who found their way to their purpose through Human Design, they didn’t find me because I had a perfect grid. They found me because the frequency of my brand… my truth…was alive in everything I did.

They found me because I was in my design. Living it. Speaking from it. Creating from it.

And when I went back to look at my chart, it all made sense.

Let’s talk about Human Design types and how they show up online:

Manifesting Generators

You are here to move fast, follow what lights you up, and shift when the energy is no longer there. You’re not meant to force consistent content that you’re not lit up about. Your audience feels your spark — if it’s missing, your magnetism dims.

➡️ Try this: Show your process. Talk through your pivots. Share what’s lighting you up this week — not what you planned last month.

Generators

You are here to respond. You create best when something outside of you sparks a fire inside. You’re not meant to initiate constantly — that’s exhausting.

➡️ Try this: Wait for the inspiration a DM, a question, a comment — and respond. That’s when your voice becomes magnetic.

Projectors

You are not meant to hustle for attention. You’re here to guide and share wisdom, but only when it’s invited in. Constant visibility can lead to burnout.

➡️ Try this: Share insight without expectation. One potent post can land deeper than 20 stories. And rest is part of your strategy.

Manifestors

You’re here to initiate, to say the thing that cracks people open — but not to explain yourself every day. You need space from social to stay in your creative power.

➡️ Try this: Create in waves. Disappear when you need. Your audience doesn’t need consistency — they need truth.

Reflectors

You’re designed to mirror the world. Your energy shifts based on who and what you’re around. Showing up the same way daily? Not it.

➡️ Try this: Share what you’re observing. Talk about the collective. Honor the cycles — your insight is valuable, even when it’s not planned.

Let’s go deeper. Your Profile also tells you how you're designed to be seen.

I'm a 3/5 — the Martyr/Heretic. Which means I lead through experimenting and sharing the lessons, and I offer practical solutions that disrupt what isn’t working.

My most powerful content? It's not the polished, curated kind. It’s the voice-note-style posts that say, “Here's what I just lived through. Here's what I learned. Here's how it can help you.”

So if you’re a:

• 6/2: You’re a role model. You're meant to embody wisdom through lived experience. People trust you when you walk the talk.

• 2/4: You're naturally gifted but need intimacy and connection. Visibility is more powerful in close-knit communities than wide audiences.

• 5/1: You’re here to offer practical solutions, but boundaries matter. Don’t people-please your content. Share what’s true for you.

Every time you open social media, you’re entering a space that’s designed to trigger comparison. To tell you you’re behind. To make you question your voice. Your value. Your path.

It’s time to stop feeding the comparison game — because that’s not where you’re going to find your power.

Your power lives in your design. Your alignment. Your trust in yourself.

So I want to ask you:

What if the reason social media feels heavy isn’t because you’re doing it wrong — but because you’ve been doing it in a way that isn’t yours?

What if your visibility strategy was never meant to look like hers?

What if your brand frequency doesn’t need more visibility — it needs more truth?

You don’t have to dance for the algorithm.
You don’t need to “be consistent” if it means betraying yourself.
You don’t have to keep pushing when your body says rest.

You need a business that honors your design.
And yes — you can grow without going viral.

You can thrive by showing up as you.

Social media is not bad.
It just needs to be re-aligned with your truth.

If this landed for you… and you’re thinking, “I’ve never heard anyone explain it like this before,” — I want to invite you to grab your free Human Design chart and audio breakdown.

It’s not fluff. It’s not another quiz.
It’s the first step toward actually understanding how you’re built to lead.

DM me “CHART” on Instagram or head to the link in the show notes.

You don’t need to perform. You need to remember.
And I’m here when you’re ready.

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Why You Are Still Burnt Out (Even after knowing your Human Design.

Why You're Still Burnt Out (Even After Human Design)

Hey, beautiful soul, welcome back to the show. Today, we’re going to talk about something that needs to be said in the world of Human Design and soul-aligned business:

Why you’re still burnt out even after Human Design.

Because let’s be real… you know your type. You know your strategy. You’ve probably pulled your chart 50 times. Maybe you’ve had a reading. Maybe you’ve taken a course. Maybe you’ve even started aligning your content or offers to your design.

And yet —

You’re still tired.
You’re still pushing.
You’re still wondering why your business feels like a chore.

Today I want to give you the truth. Not the polished truth. Not the “love and light” version.
The 3/5 truth. The "I've failed, I've fixed it, and now I'm here to share it" truth.

Because I’m not here to pretend like Human Design is some instant fix.
I’m here to tell you this:

Knowing your design is not the transformation. Living it is.

Here’s the thing: Human Design isn’t meant to live in your notes app.
It’s meant to live in your calendar.
In your offers.
In your voice.
In your nervous system.

If you’re still burnt out, chances are…
You’re thinking about your design instead of responding from it.
You’re intellectualizing the system — but not feeling safe enough to live it.

Especially if you're a Manifesting Generator like me — with that defined sacral energy, undefined mind, and a whole lot of societal conditioning around "how it's supposed to look."

Human Design doesn’t work on the surface. It’s not a “content plan.” It’s a full-body reclamation.

Here’s what I’ve seen — in myself and in my clients:

You learned your Type and then… tried to be the "best" version of it.
You learned your Profile and then… used it to explain why you’re not consistent.
You listened to all the experts but didn’t pause to ask: Does this feel like me?

I’ve done it too.
I used to plan like a Projector.
Launch like a Generator.
Hide behind strategy instead of trusting my voice.

Until I burned out with Human Design.

That’s when I realized:

Alignment doesn’t come from knowing. It comes from choosing.

From choosing to:

• Market when your sacral says yes — not when your coach says you should.

• Build offers that reflect your energy — not what the template says.

• Speak from your body — not from someone else’s slides.

Living your design is messy.
It’s iterative. It’s uncomfortable at first.

But it’s also where the magic starts to happen:

You create an offer that feels so aligned… and clients start DM’ing you.
You stop scripting your content… and your voice starts resonating.
You stop planning 90 days out… and things flow anyway.

Because your body is leading now. Not your mind.

That’s what embodiment is. That’s what business by design actually means.

So if you’re still burnt out — I want you to ask yourself:

• Where am I still following someone else’s rules?

• Where am I outsourcing my power to strategy instead of soul?

• Where does my business still feel like it’s happening to me instead of with me?

And if this hits — I want you to know:
It’s not your fault. It’s just not your way.

You’re not here to copy. You’re here to create.

This is the work I do with my clients — we go deep into not just your chart, but how to live it. In your voice. Your offers. Your brand. Your marketing. Your leadership.

If you're feeling the pull, message me on Instagram @ [Insert Handle] with the word ALIGN and I’ll send you details for my private 1:1 mentorship.

Because you’re not meant to hustle your way to alignment.
You’re meant to become magnetic by being more you.

Thank you for listening today. If this landed, please share this episode with a friend, or post it to your stories and tag me — I love hearing what resonates.

And remember: You are not here to run your business like anyone else.
You are here to burn the template and build something that feels like you.

I love you. Talk soon.

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The New Era - Awakening the Soul of Every Generation

You can feel it, can’t you?

Something in the air has changed.
The way we work. The way we connect. Even the way we feel purpose.
It’s like the ground beneath everything we’ve known is shifting, and our souls are whispering:
There’s more.

This episode is not about trends or tactics.
It’s about truth.
It’s about the new human design for the new era —
and what it means for every one of us who can feel that we were made for something different.

For hundreds of years, humanity has lived inside what we call the Era of Planning —
a frequency built on systems, logic, and hierarchy.
We were taught to follow, to fit in, to earn our worth through achievement.
And for a long time, it worked.

But now, that energy is dissolving.
The old world is losing its charge.
And what’s rising is something brand new — what Human Design calls The Era of the Individual.

This shift isn’t abstract or “woo.”
It’s physics.
It’s frequency.
We’re moving from force to flow, from control to coherence, from imitation to embodiment.

In this New Era, your success isn’t determined by how much you do —
but by how aligned you are.
Your frequency has become your strategy.

And that changes everything.

⚡️ The Awakening of Every Generation

Last week, I sat across from a brand-new client.
She’s 83 years old.
And she said, “Julie, I don’t know what just happened, but something opened in me.
I know there’s more I’m meant to do. My soul isn’t done yet.”

That moment gave me chills.
Because this work — this awakening — is not about age, or career, or even business.
It’s about remembering.

And the fact that I can be working with her at 83,
and then turn around and mentor my youngest client at 25,
tells me one thing:
every generation is waking up.

We are being called home —
to our design,
to our truth,
to our power.

Because the soul doesn’t age.
It evolves.

The 83-year-old is breaking ancestral patterns of silence and suppression.
The 25-year-old is refusing to play by rules that were never hers to begin with.
And both are part of the same movement —
the same frequency rising across generations —
the one that says: “I will no longer abandon my truth to fit into the old world.”

💫 The Science of Energy

Einstein said, “Everything is energy.”
And he meant it.
Every thought, emotion, and intention emits a measurable frequency.
Quantum physics tells us that observation itself shapes reality —
meaning your attention isn’t passive.
It’s creative.

So what happens when you start to run your business, your relationships, and your life
through the frequency of your design instead of your conditioning?

You stop forcing.
You start flowing.
You stop reacting.
You start responding.
You stop performing.
You start embodying.

Human Design isn’t a personality test.
It’s an operating system for your frequency —
one that teaches you how to make decisions that match the vibration of your soul.

Because in the New Era, energy is the new currency.
And coherence is your credibility.

🌕 The Collective Evolution

You can see it everywhere — systems are crumbling.
Institutions that once held power are shaking.
The education system, healthcare, religion, government — all of it is being questioned.
Because the old energy can’t sustain itself in the new frequency.

And here’s what’s so beautiful:
This isn’t chaos.
It’s completion.

It’s the ending of an era that taught us everything we needed to know about survival —
so we can now learn what it means to create.

We are the bridge generation.
We carry both frequencies — the logic of the old world, and the intuition of the new.
That’s why it feels so uncomfortable sometimes.
But we’re not here to resist it.
We’re here to translate it — through our work, our art, our leadership, our energy.

When you live your design,
you stabilize that frequency for others.
You become a tuning fork for the collective.
You become the reminder of what alignment looks like in human form.

🕊

The New Era isn’t coming.
It’s already here.
And it’s asking you one question:
Are you willing to live by design, not by default?

This isn’t about learning more — it’s about remembering who you are.
It’s about bringing your energy, your purpose, your design back into harmony
so your life and your business feel like an extension of your soul.

Because whether you’re 25 or 83 —
you’re not too late.
You’re right on time.
You were born for this transition.
Your frequency matters to the evolution of humanity.

So if this conversation sparked something in you — if you can feel that hum inside —
I want to invite you to book a Frequency Audit Call with me.

It’s not a sales call.
It’s a mirror.
We’ll look at the energetic blueprint of your life or business,
find the leaks, the misalignments,
and create a clear path back to resonance.

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Because the world doesn’t need more people doing.
It needs more people being.
Being aligned.
Being awake.
Being fully themselves.

You are that person.
You are the signal.
And the New Era begins with you.

If this episode landed in your heart, share it with someone who’s been feeling the shift too.
Because the more of us who remember who we are,
the faster the world transforms.

This is The Human Design Advantage.
And this is the new era.

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The Myth Of Consistency

Hey, beautiful souls. welcome back to The Human Design Advantage, where we strip away the noise, the shoulds, and the endless strategies that have kept you playing small… so you can finally build a business and a life that feels like you.

Today we’re talking about a word that has probably haunted you in one way or another:
Consistency.

You’ve heard it everywhere —
“Be consistent in your business.”
“Be consistent in your morning routine.”
“Be consistent in your habits, your workouts, your journaling, your healing.”

But here’s the question no one asks:
Consistent to what?

Because when the consistency you’re chasing isn’t aligned with your energy, your design, or your season of life…
it’s not discipline… it’s disconnection.

✨ SEGMENT 1: THE CONSISTENCY TRAP

We’ve been conditioned to believe that consistency equals success.
If you just show up every day — do the thing, post the post, repeat the routine — it’ll all click.

But that advice assumes we all operate the same way.

And if you’ve been living by someone else’s definition of consistency,
you’ve probably felt it — the pressure, the guilt, the “I’m never doing enough” energy.

Maybe you’ve said to yourself:

• “I should meditate every morning.”

• “I should post five times a week.”

• “I should go to the gym consistently.”

• “I should have a routine by now.”

But underneath all that “should” is your system screaming:
This doesn’t fit me.

And the harder you try to keep up with a rhythm that isn’t yours, the further you drift from your natural one.

🌀 SEGMENT 2: THE HUMAN DESIGN PERSPECTIVE

Here’s the thing — your design already knows your rhythm.

Generators and Manifesting Generators — you’re designed to follow what lights you up, and that will never look like a strict schedule.
Your energy flows when you’re inspired, not when you’re forcing output.

Projectors — you thrive in cycles of deep insight and rest.
You might create three weeks of brilliance in one day — and then need a week to just be.

Manifestors — your bursts are pure magic.
When inspiration strikes, you move mountains. When it’s gone, you’re meant to rest, not push through.

Reflectors — you move with the moon. You’re meant to ebb, flow, and change — not stay steady for the sake of it.

So why do we keep trying to make ourselves fit someone else’s consistency template?

Because we’ve been taught that inconsistency equals failure — when in truth, it’s often a sign of authenticity.

🌿 SEGMENT 3: BEYOND BUSINESS — WHERE THIS SHOWS UP EVERYWHERE

This doesn’t just show up in your business.
It’s in your relationships.
Your self-care.
Your spiritual practice.

Maybe you’ve tried to be “consistent” in the way you show up for others — always the dependable one, the helper, the strong one —
and now you’re exhausted because no one shows up for you.

Maybe you’ve tried to be consistent in your healing — journaling, meditating, doing “the work” every day —
but some days, the most healing thing you could do is nothing at all.

Or maybe you’ve tried to be consistent in your emotions — to stay positive, high-vibe, grateful —
when your soul is begging you to just feel.

The truth is, life is not meant to be linear.
Energy is not meant to be static.
And consistency — the way we’ve been taught — often robs us of our aliveness.

🔥 SEGMENT 4: THE NEW DEFINITION OF CONSISTENCY

So let’s redefine it.

Consistency isn’t about repetition. It’s about resonance.

It’s not about doing the same thing every day.
It’s about showing up from the same energy of truth whenever you do.

You can take a week off of posting —
but when you come back with an aligned message that drips with soul, that’s consistency.

You can skip your morning routine —
but when you honor your body and listen to what it needs that day, that’s consistency.

You can cancel a plan to protect your energy —
and that’s still consistency — because you’re being consistent with yourself.

🌙 SEGMENT 5: THE REAL COST OF FALSE CONSISTENCY

The real danger isn’t being inconsistent —
it’s being consistent with the wrong things.

Consistent people-pleasing.
Consistent ignoring of your body.
Consistent hustling when your soul is asking you to pause.
Consistent trying to prove that you’re enough.

That’s what drains your magnetism.
That’s what makes your business feel like a burden.

When you stop forcing false consistency and start aligning your rhythm to your design — you free yourself.
You stop chasing discipline and start embodying devotion.

💫 SEGMENT 6: WRAP UP / REFLECTION

So here’s your reflection for today:

Where are you being consistent with things that no longer serve you?
And where can you start being consistent with your truth, even if that looks wildly inconsistent to others?

Remember — consistency is not about how often you show up.
It’s about how authentically you show up when you do.

That’s the kind of consistency that changes your business.
That deepens your relationships.
That rebuilds your trust with yourself.

If this conversation hit something in you — if you’re ready to learn what true alignment and natural rhythm actually look like for you —
I want to invite you to grab your free Human Design Report + Audio Series.

It’s completely free (most people charge for this), and it will help you understand your unique energy, authority, and design — so you can finally stop forcing yourself to be consistent in ways that were never meant for you.

The link is in the show notes.

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You are meant for more and its TIME to find out what!

You know, I want to start today a little differently.

Because if you’re paying attention right now… to your own life, to the world around us … you can feel it. Things are shifting. Some things are breaking down. And for a lot of us, what used to feel like security or the ‘right path’ just doesn’t anymore.

I believe that’s not an accident.
I believe we’re being called into something deeper… into really understanding ourselves, our gifts, and why we’re here.

And here’s the truth: we can’t keep creating from someone else’s rules. We can’t keep building lives and businesses from strategies, blueprints, or expectations that were never ours to begin with.

It’s time.
It’s time to remember what we’re here to do.
It’s time to know how we’re uniquely designed to create.
And it’s time to finally step into the freedom and fulfillment that come when you live from that place.

And that’s exactly what I want to talk to you about today because when you begin to see yourself through the lens of your Human Design, it doesn’t just change your business or your relationships. It changes the way you walk through life. And more than ever, the world needs you living out your design.

Most of us don’t realize how much fear is quietly shaping our lives.
And here’s the thing: it’s not random.
It’s actually mapped into your Human Design, right down to your profile.

Today, I want to show you the hidden fear inside YOUR profile and why it may be the reason you keep hesitating, second-guessing, or holding yourself back… even when you know you’re meant for more.

I’ll be honest .. I’ve lived this.
As a 3/5, my hidden fear is failure. And for years, I let it run the show without even knowing it.
That fear had me chasing every strategy, every blueprint, terrified of getting it ‘wrong.’
And the irony? That’s exactly what disconnected me from myself and my own wisdom.

The moment I saw this in my design, everything clicked.
The fear wasn’t there to stop me. It was there to guide me into the gift on the other side — wisdom and resilience.

[Teaching / Give Them a Win]
“Every profile line carries its own hidden fear.

• Line 1: Fear of inadequacy → always needing more info before you start.

• Line 2: Fear of rejection → hiding your gifts so no one can judge them.

• Line 3: Fear of failure → avoiding risk or beating yourself up when things don’t work out.

• Line 4: Fear of being alone → clinging to relationships that aren’t aligned.

• Line 5: Fear of projection → worried about disappointing people’s expectations.

• Line 6: Fear of imperfection → putting pressure on yourself to have it all figured out.

Which one landed for you just now?
That’s the one that’s been quietly shaping your choices.

Here’s what’s wild: fear is not a flaw.
It’s actually a signpost.
When you see it for what it is, it loses its grip and points you toward your gift.

But most of us never get that far.
We just let fear run in the background, shaping every decision, every hesitation, every cycle we can’t seem to break.

This is exactly why I created the 20 Fears Workshop.

Because what I just shared with you is only one layer the profile.
But there are 20 unique fears mapped into your design.
And when you see yours, you finally understand what’s really been holding you back… and how to flip it into clarity, courage, and forward movement.

So if you’re ready to stop letting fear quietly run your life and start using it as fuel for your next chapter, join me.

👉 Save your spot here: https://highperformancecoach.myflodesk.com/fears

Fear doesn’t get the final say. You do.

And I can’t wait to show you how.

The Fears Hiding in Your Design (And Why You’re Not Broken)

Let’s talk about fear for a minute.

We often think of fear as something dramatic: fear of failure, fear of being seen, fear of rejection. And yes, those are real. But what if I told you some of your most influential fears are the ones you don’t even recognize as fear?

The fear that says:

• “I don’t want to try again. I’ve done this before and it didn’t work.”

• “I feel disconnected and numb… is this all there is?”

• “What if people leave the moment I change direction?”

• “Why do I always end up burnt out no matter what I do?”

These fears aren’t always loud.
In fact, they often sound like logic, “gut feelings,” or intuition.

But what they really are… is conditioning.

And in Human Design, many of us are actually coded with fear gates… themes that live within our bodygraph that, when unrecognized, can absolutely dominate how we move through life.

And for a long time, I didn’t know mine.

Let me get real with you.

In my first business, I worked with hundreds of people. I showed up fully, poured myself into it, did everything the “right” way.

And while many people got results, some didn’t.

And that… broke me a little.

I couldn’t figure out why. I made it mean something about me .. that I had failed them. I started doubting myself, overthinking every launch, holding back even when I had something powerful to say.

But when I discovered Human Design, I saw myself in a way I never had before.

I realized I was operating under the weight of fear gates I had no idea were there.

💥 Gate 44 — fear of the past repeating.
It whispered, “Don’t try again. Last time, it didn’t work. Why would this time be any different?”
So I played small. I hesitated. I didn’t show up fully.

💔 Gate 49 — fear of rejection.
This one made me want to shut down or pivot too quickly. “If I change again, will they still follow me? Or am I too inconsistent?”

🌀 Gate 55 — fear of emptiness.
This one hit me hardest. It’s the fear that the inspiration will run out, that the joy won’t return, that maybe I’ve already missed my window.
And when I was in an emotional low, I used to spiral. I thought something was wrong with me.

But now… I understand that these aren’t problems to fix.

They’re invitations to understand.

Here’s the thing, friend.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, uninspired, unsure of yourself.. I want you to consider something radical:

Maybe you’re not misaligned.
Maybe you’re just afraid and that fear has been running beneath the surface for so long, you forgot it was even there.

Your fears might not sound like “I’m scared.”
They might sound like logic.
They might sound like tiredness.
They might sound like procrastination or doubt or “not the right time.”

But under all of that? It’s your energy speaking.

What changed everything for me was when I stopped trying to force a strategy that didn’t fit… and started asking:

What is my energy asking of me?

Because when you can name the fear, it stops running the show in secret.
When you understand your design, your decisions shift.
And when your decisions shift… your results follow.

If I could go back to that first version of me the one burning herself out trying to serve everyone — I’d hold her face in my hands and say:

“You’re not the problem.
You’ve just never been given your roadmap.”

And maybe no one’s given you yours either.

But that can change.

If any part of this hits you if you’re nodding along or feeling tears well up because finally someone put it into words … I want to offer you a next step.

I don’t want to coach you.
I don’t want to “read” you.
I want to guide you back to yourself.

That’s what I do in my Human Design–Infused Clarity Session.

It’s not a coaching call.
It’s not a chart reading.

It’s a space where I gently walk you through the core areas of your life or business and help you see:

• Where your energy is being drained

• Where fear or conditioning might be hiding

• What your next aligned step could look like

I’ve done these with dozens of women, and the most common thing I hear at the end is:

“I’ve never felt so seen.”

if you’re brand new to Human Design, grab your free chart and bingeable audio series to start exploring. Stefcarlstedt.com/lifehdreport

You don’t have to do this blindly anymore.

You get to know.
You get to understand.
You get to move forward in alignment with your truth.

Thanks for being here.
I’m honored to walk with you.

xo
Stef

The Human Design Advantage in 2025 and Beyond

Burnt Out By My Own Brand. The Truth About Social Media

Today’s episode is a little different.

I’m not here to teach… I’m here to tell the truth.
The story of how I went from loving social media to feeling completely disconnected from myself and how Human Design gave me the clarity and permission to come home to who I’ve always been.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re forcing it online…
If you’ve ever followed all the “right” strategies and still felt off…
This episode is for you.

🌱 THE BEGINNING:

I got Facebook in college.
It was simple.. just a way to stay in touch with friends.
No pressure. No strategy. Just connection.

And I loved it.

It felt like a space where I could show up fully… unfiltered, unpolished, unbranded.

🧱 THEN I STARTED A BUSINESS...

Like many of you, when I started my business, everything changed.
Suddenly, social media became a job.

I was told to:
• Show up every day
• Share value
• Be consistent
• Build a brand

And I did all of it.
I followed the formulas. I mimicked the strategies.
I performed.

And I didn’t even realize I was slowly drifting away from myself in the process.

🖤 THE BREAKING POINT

Then I lost my dad.

And when that happened, everything… just slowed down.
My business. My energy. My capacity.

It felt like life had stripped everything that wasn’t real, or necessary, or me.

And I looked around at what I had built and realized I didn’t recognize it anymore.

I had built a brand based on pressure, performance, and what other people told me I should do.

🌕 THE PIVOT: FINDING HUMAN DESIGN

I got quiet.
I shut out the world.

And in that stillness… I found Human Design.

For the first time, I felt like I had a language for how I was actually wired to show up.
How I’m meant to work, share, create, connect.

As a 3/5 Manifesting Generator with a Line 1 Vibe of Tribe… I saw why I was burning out.
Why I was repelling the very people I wanted to help.
Why nothing ever quite clicked even when I was “doing it right.”

🔥 THE RETURN TO MYSELF

Human Design gave me permission to come back to myself.
And when I started creating content again from alignment everything shifted.

My energy changed.
My audience started connecting.
My message started resonating.

And most importantly… it felt like mine again.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re showing up in ways that don’t feel like you…
If your content feels like a performance, or a pressure, or a prison…
I want you to know you’re not broken.
You’re just out of alignment with how you’re designed to show up.

And there’s a way back.

If you want to know how you are uniquely wired to show up in your business…
I’ve created a free Human Design chart + 5-part audio series that breaks it down for you in simple, tangible ways.

You can grab it below or in the show notes.

stefcarlstredt.com/hdreport .

💫 CLOSING

Thanks for listening to this one it’s a piece of my heart.
If it resonated with you, share it with a friend or just let me know I always love hearing from you.

You don’t have to keep building a business that doesn’t feel like you.
You just need to find your way back to who you’ve always been.

You Don’t Have to Burn It all Down To Live!

Today I want to talk about something that keeps so many of us stuck: the belief that in order to live your purpose, you have to burn it all down.

Quit the job. End the relationship. Sell everything and move across the country.

And listen… sometimes that is the path. But for most of us? That fear of having to blow up our whole life keeps us from even taking the first step.

So today I want to share the truth: You don’t have to burn it all down to live your purpose. In fact, Human Design shows us that your purpose starts with tiny shifts … shifts that realign you with who you already are. And those small shifts can change everything.

“I’ll be honest, when I first found Human Design, I thought: oh great, here comes another system telling me I need to completely reinvent myself.

And as a Manifesting Generator? I’d already burned things down more times than I could count. Jobs, businesses, routines… if it didn’t fit, I left.

But here’s the beautiful thing I learned: Human Design isn’t about breaking everything apart. It’s about aligning with the energy that’s already inside you.

For example, when I stopped forcing myself into strategies that didn’t light me up, I didn’t need to throw away my business… I just needed to shift the way I ran it. When I trusted my Authority, I didn’t need to end everything… I just needed to stop outsourcing my decisions and finally listen to myself.

It was never about burning it down. It was about shifting back into sync.

“So let’s talk about what this looks like in real life.

If you’ve been scared to explore your Human Design, or scared to really go after what you want because you think it means tearing everything apart… here’s what I want you to know:

✨ Alignment doesn’t have to be dramatic. Sometimes it’s as simple as saying no when you mean no. Or taking 10 minutes to respond to an invitation instead of people-pleasing.

✨ Living on purpose doesn’t start with clarity, it starts with courage. You don’t have to know the whole plan. You just have to take one small step that honors your design.

✨ Tiny shifts add up. The Projector who starts giving herself permission to rest will find new energy for her work. The Generator who stops forcing and waits to respond suddenly feels excitement again. The Manifestor who stops asking for permission starts feeling powerful again.

It’s not about blowing it all up. It’s about listening, adjusting, and experimenting until you feel your energy click back into place.

“Imagine this: You’re still in the same life you’re in now. Same family. Same job. Same business.

But instead of feeling drained, you feel energized because you’re making decisions that actually fit you. Instead of spinning in circles, you feel clear because you’re listening to your Authority. Instead of feeling like you’re living someone else’s life, you feel like you again.

That’s what purpose feels like. Not necessarily a new life, but a new way of living the one you already have.

So here’s the takeaway, love: You don’t have to burn it all down.

Your next chapter doesn’t have to start with destruction. It starts with permission … permission to realign, to trust yourself, and to make tiny shifts that add up to a life that feels like yours.

And if you’re ready to explore what that looks like for you, I’d love to invite you into The Meant-for-More Session.

On this call, we’ll look at where you feel most out of sync, uncover what living on purpose really looks like in your Human Design, and map out your next steps.

It’s not about fixing you. It’s about remembering you.

The link is in the show notes… go grab your spot. Because you were never meant to settle. You were meant for more.

https://calendly.com/stefcarlstedt/stand-out-strategy-call

The Business Traps Keeping You Stuck (and What to Do Instead)

Let’s be honest…. the online business world is full of rules. Rules about how to sell, how to price your offers, how to market yourself, how often you should show up. And most of them? They don’t actually work… at least not for you.

Today we’re going to talk about three of the biggest traps that keep entrepreneurs stuck: lowering your prices, creating fake urgency, and feeling like you have to be selling all the time just to be seen.

And then we’re going to talk about what actually works instead… the thing that finally shifted everything in my business and in the businesses of my clients. And spoiler alert …it’s not another tactic. It’s alignment.

Here’s the thing. I’ve been in business for over 13 years. And in that time, I have followed all the rules. I’ve lowered my prices when someone said they couldn’t afford it. I’ve tried fake urgency with countdown timers and ‘enrollment closes tonight’ offers. I’ve pushed myself to show up and sell every single day even when I felt exhausted.

And let me tell you: none of those things created sustainable growth.

What they did create was burnout. Frustration. That awful question … ‘what’s wrong with me? Why does this work for everyone else but not for me?

And if you’ve ever thought the same thing, let me just pause here and tell you the truth: there’s nothing wrong with you. The problem isn’t you. The problem is that you’ve been building your business on rules that were never designed for you.

One of the biggest traps I see business owners fall into is lowering their prices.

It usually starts with good intentions. Someone says, ‘I really want to work with you, but I can’t afford it.’ And because you care about people, because you want to help, you think, ‘Maybe I should lower my price so they can say yes.”

But here’s what actually happens when you do that:

• You weaken your own belief in your offer. If you’ll bend once, you’ll bend again, and suddenly your pricing feels like it’s on shaky ground.

• You send the message to yourself that your work isn’t worth what you decided it was worth.

• And here’s the truth when someone says they ‘can’t afford it,’ it’s rarely about money. If they truly believe your offer is the solution to their problem, they’ll find a way. We’ve all seen it: people spend money on what they value.

So when you lower your price, it’s not actually helping the client. It’s teaching them to undervalue the transformation. And it’s teaching you to doubt yourself. That’s a lose-lose.

The second trap is fake urgency. You’ve seen this a million times — countdown timers, bonuses that ‘expire,’ doors that ‘close’ but then magically reopen next week.

Here’s the problem: fake urgency creates quick yeses, but they’re not solid yeses. They’re pressure yeses. Which means they often turn into cancellations, refunds, or worse…clients who don’t show up fully because they only said yes out of fear of missing out.

I’ve been on both sides of this. I’ve bought from fake urgency and regretted it. And I’ve used fake urgency in my business and felt gross about it. Neither felt aligned. Neither created the kind of long-term, sustainable sales that actually feel good.

And then there’s the third trap: constant selling. This is the idea that you have to show up every single day, selling nonstop, or else your business will crumble.

That’s a lie.

What happens when you buy into this is you’re always in chase mode instead of leadership mode. You’re scrambling to be visible, scrambling to get noticed, scrambling to make the next sale. And that scramble energy is repelling the very people you want to attract.

The right clients don’t need you to beg them or chase them. They don’t need convincing. They need clarity. They need resonance. And when you’re showing up in alignment with who you really are, that’s what they feel.

This is where Human Design comes in.

Human Design showed me that there isn’t just one way to sell. There isn’t just one way to market yourself. There isn’t just one way to run a business.

There’s your way.

When you understand your design …your type, your strategy, your authority, your profile … you stop second-guessing everything. You stop wondering if you should lower your price. You stop feeling pressured to create urgency or sell nonstop.

Because you know how you are designed to sell, lead, and show up.

And that’s when business gets easier. That’s when sales feel natural instead of forced. That’s when you stop hustling for validation and start magnetizing the right people, the right opportunities, the right clients.

And this… this is exactly what I’m teaching inside my free 3-day workshop called Burn the Biz Rulebook.

If you’re tired of playing the game by everyone else’s rules… if you’re tired of being told that you just need to lower your price, or sell harder, or follow some one-size-fits-all strategy… this workshop is for you.

We’re going to dismantle the BS, uncover what’s actually been draining your business momentum, and show you how to rebuild your business in alignment with your unique design.

You don’t need another formula. You need clarity. You need permission. You need your energy back.

And that’s exactly what you’ll walk away with in this workshop.

You can save your free seat right now at stefcarlstedt.com/burnit

And if you’re listening to this thinking, ‘I don’t want to wait. I want to start right now,’ I’ve also created a 2-week experience called the HD Business Jumpstart.

It’s a focused, two-week process where we take the first steps of integrating your Human Design into your business. By the end, you’ll know exactly what to shift, what to stop doing, and how to start selling in a way that feels good for you.

So here’s your takeaway today: you don’t need to follow the rules that don’t feel good. You don’t need to lower your prices. You don’t need to fake urgency. You don’t need to sell every second of every day.

You need to build your business your way. By design.

I’ll see you inside the workshop.

ROOTING FOR YOU!,

Stef

The Hidden Places You Are Copying and Slowly Killing Your Business Results

Alright… let’s be real.
You probably think you’re building your business your way.
You’ve put in the work, you’ve got your offers, you’ve got your strategy… but, and hear me out, there’s a very good chance you’re unknowingly copying someone else.

And no, I don’t mean stealing content.
I mean adopting the way you price, market, sell, or even work every day… just because it’s what you’ve seen everyone else do.

Here’s the thing… you can’t build a truly sustainable, profitable business that feels like home if you’re running it based on someone else’s blueprint.
And I say this with so much love… but also from 13 years of trial-and-error. I’ve been there.

Today, I’m breaking down the sneaky ways copying happens without you even realizing it, how it’s secretly draining your momentum, and how Human Design is the key to getting your business back to being 100% yours."

"So, here’s how this happens…
We enter the online business world, and suddenly we’re in this sea of experts and gurus saying:
‘Here’s the formula.’
‘Here’s the launch plan.’
‘Here’s the only way to get clients.’

And without even thinking, we start adopting it.
Why? Because it’s everywhere. It’s normalized. It’s ‘the way things are done.’

I did this for years. I copied launch schedules, offer structures, even how I was supposed to post on Instagram. I convinced myself that because it worked for someone else, it had to work for me.

But here’s what I learned the hard way when you try to succeed using someone else’s rules, you end up exhausted, frustrated, and doubting yourself.
It’s like wearing shoes that are the wrong size. They might look great, but after a while, they just give you blisters.

"Let’s talk about where this shows up, because I want you to actually check yourself here.
Here are the 5 most common places I see business owners , maybe even you , unknowingly copying:

1. Pricing — You set your prices because ‘that’s what coaches charge’ or ‘I saw someone else at this level charging this.’ No reflection on your design, your energy, your audience… just an autopilot decision.

2. Offer structure — You mimic the course layout, group program format, or even length of someone else’s offer because it’s ‘what works,’ not what actually lights you up to deliver.

3. Marketing cadence — You follow the 5-posts-a-week, 12-emails-in-a-launch rule without asking if it fits how you’re designed to work. And spoiler: for many of you, it doesn’t.

4. Sales style — You push urgency tactics, scripts, or calls-to-action that make you feel… kinda gross. But you keep doing it because someone told you it’s how to close a sale.

5. Work schedule — You try to fit yourself into the 9-to-5 or the ‘CEO morning routine’ because it’s what everyone preaches… even though it leaves you drained.

If you’re nodding right now, you’re not alone. This is the reality for so many entrepreneurs. And again… this isn’t about blame. This is about awareness.

So why does this matter?
Because when you operate out of alignment with your Human Design… your type, your strategy, your authority… you’re making every part of business harder than it needs to be.

You’re leaking energy in a hundred small ways. Your clarity gets fuzzy. Your momentum dies down. Sales feel inconsistent. And suddenly, you’re wondering if you’re even cut out for this.

And that’s the most dangerous part… you start making your results mean something about you… when really, it’s just that you’ve been building a business designed for someone else.

So how do you stop this?
Step one… get crystal clear on your design.

Your design tells you why certain things feel heavy, why some strategies take twice the energy for you, and why you’ve been drawn to approaches that don’t actually work for you long term.

Here’s a quick example: A Generator might thrive on a consistent content rhythm and doing more live interaction, while a Projector will burn out fast if they try to keep that pace their energy works differently.

This is why Human Design isn’t just some fun personality test. It’s literally your instruction manual for how to run your business in a way that works for you.

And if you’re listening to this and realizing, ‘Wow… I’ve been copying way more than I thought,’ you need to be in my free 3-day workshop, Burn the Biz Rulebook.

Inside, we’re going to uncover exactly where your business is out of alignment where you’re forcing strategies that don’t fit and I’ll show you how to rebuild using your unique Human Design so you get your energy, clarity, and momentum back.

This is where we stop the copy-paste business model and finally create something that’s 100% yours.
You don’t need another formula. You need your own blueprint and that’s exactly what we’ll start mapping out together.

Save your spot now at stefcarlstedt.com/burnit , and let’s start building a business that actually fits you.

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How To Attract Clients With Aligned Energy

Have you ever put something out into the world .. a post, a reel, a program… and felt so excited about it... only to hear crickets?

You’re doing everything “right.”
You’re following what they said to do.
But somehow… it’s not landing. It’s not resonating. It’s not converting.

If you’ve ever felt like your message is technically correct but energetically off , this episode is going to shift everything.

Because today, I’m introducing you to something you were never taught in your business strategy course:
My Mentor calls it Your Vibe of Tribe and how this one energetic key unlocks your clarity, connection, and clients.

Let’s dive in.

🎯 Segment 1: What is Vibe of Tribe and Why No One’s Talking About It

You’ve probably been taught to build your brand around what you sell or who you serve.
But what if the most important piece isn’t what you say… but how your people feel in your presence?

Your Vibe of Tribe is the energetic feeling your ideal client needs to experience from you before they ever click buy.

It’s not your brand colors.
It’s not your niche statement.
It’s the frequency you’re here to embody one that magnetizes the right people when you’re living it.

Vibe of Tribe comes from the line of your Conscious Sun in Human Design and every line carries a different energetic imprint. It’s like the unique energetic “signature” you’re meant to embody and express.

And here’s the part no one tells you:

👉 If your content isn’t resonating…
👉 If your offers aren’t selling…
👉 If you feel like your people aren’t “getting it”...

You might be showing up in a way that isn’t aligned with your Vibe of Tribe.

And the moment you shift into your real energetic voice?
Everything starts to land.

🧬 Segment 2: Real-Life Examples of Each VOT (Brief Overview)

Let me give you a feel for what this looks like, because this isn’t abstract — this is practical energetics.

• Line 1 (mine): Your tribe needs to feel safe. You’ve done your research. You’re grounded. You are the lighthouse in the storm. This isn't guesswork .. you bring depth and credibility.

• Line 2: Your tribe needs to feel your natural genius. They want to watch you be in your zone. It’s not forced … it's intuitive and inspiring.

• Line 3: Your tribe needs to know you’ve lived it. You’ve failed. You’ve risen. You’re in the realness of life. They trust you because you’ve walked through the fire.

• Line 4: Your tribe needs community. Connection. They feel seen and held by you. You’re the heart-centered bridge.

• Line 5: Your tribe needs solutions. Clarity. They come to you when they’re in a pinch and need it fixed fast. You’re a powerful guide with direct insight.

• Line 6: Your tribe needs wisdom. They see you as the mentor. They want the big-picture vision, not just the day-to-day.

Now here’s what happens when you ignore this…

You’re a Line 1 but trying to be flashy and overly expressive.
You’re a Line 3 trying to teach like a guru instead of sharing from experience.
You’re a Line 5 trying to “connect” when your genius is actually cutting through the noise.

Do you see how this creates disconnect?

💡 Segment 3: How to Find Your Vibe of Tribe and Use It in Your Business

This isn’t a “nice to know.”
This is the bridge between “meh” messaging and magnetic leadership.

Here’s what you can start doing today to align your voice to your Vibe of Tribe:

1. Learn the Line meaning and what your tribe is seeking
   → Your people aren’t randomly following you. They are energetically wired to seek the specific feeling you embody when you’re aligned.

2. Audit your content
   → Is your content giving them that feeling?
   → Are you being yourself... or trying to “market” like everyone else?

3. Create from your frequency
   → For example, as a Line 1, I’m here to make you feel grounded, safe, certain. So my reels, my offers, my stories they come from that place.
   → I’m not here to hype you up. I’m here to calm your nervous system with truth.

When you stop chasing tactics and start embodying your natural vibe that’s when people say: “I don’t even know why, but I trust her.”

That’s the power of Vibe of Tribe.

💬 Final Segment: If You’ve Been Misunderstood, This Is Why

Here’s the truth: most people are building their business based on someone else’s energy.

And it’s exhausting.

But you? You’re not here to be a copy.
You’re here to be a frequency.

And when you return to your natural energetic voice the one that was always yours .. you stop trying to prove.

You just become magnetic.

🎧

1. Go grab your free Human Design chart at stefcarlstedt.com/hdreport

You’re not for everyone … but you are for your people.
And your energy is what they’re waiting for.

snag your FREE BUSINESS AUDIT HERE!

The Truth About Social Media and Your Design

Welcome back. Today I want to have a real conversation… one that might feel a little edgy, especially if you’ve built your business like I did: online, on social media, constantly “showing up.”

This episode is called “The Truth About Why I’m Posting Less (and Growing More),” and I’m going to walk you through not just what I’m doing differently, but why it took me so long to admit that it wasn’t working for me anymore.

🧠 Part 1: The Shift I’m Making.. And Why

I used to think that success looked like consistency. Like always having something to post. Like having a “content calendar” that mapped out the next 30 days. Like making sure my face and voice and message were constantly being seen.

And that worked. Until it didn’t.

Because even though I built a multi-six-figure brand, I started noticing the cost:

• I felt drained.

• I felt performative.

• I was measuring my worth by views and saves instead of depth and alignment.

And it hit me: I wasn’t out of alignment with success. I was out of alignment with myself.

🔑 Part 2: My Human Design Helped Me See It

I’m a 3/5 Manifesting Generator with Sacral Authority, and everything in my design was whispering:

“This isn’t how your energy wants to work.”

Here’s what that means:

• My 3/5 Profile means I’m here to try, fail, refine and lead from experience, not perfection. So curated content felt fake.

• As an MG, I move fast when it’s right, but I was burning energy on content I didn’t even feel turned on by.

• With Sacral Authority, I’m here to respond from my gut not push through a strategy.

• And my Valleys Environment? I’m built for depth, not noise. Social was loud.

Add in my Vibe of Tribe 1: I’m not here for the masses. I’m here for the right people the ones who feel my energy and say “this is it.”

And none of that aligned with the 24/7 content hamster wheel.

🚨 Part 3: The Lie We’ve Been Sold

Let’s be honest: we’ve been taught a lie.

We’ve been told:

• “You have to post daily or you’ll be forgotten.”

• “Your value is in your visibility.”

• “If you’re not on social, you don’t have a business.”

But I’m calling BS. Because I know too many brilliant people who are burning out in the name of algorithms. Too many geniuses stuck editing Reels instead of refining offers.

Visibility ≠ viability.
Performance ≠ prosperity.
Consistency ≠ alignment.

And AI is only speeding this up. Anyone can create content now , but not everyone can transmit truth.

🌿 Part 4: What I’m Doing Instead

So here’s what I’m choosing now:

• ✨ Depth over daily posts

• 🎙️ Podcasting instead of pushing out content for the algorithm

• 💌 Email… where I can tell real stories, not chase trends

• 🤝 Magnetic Business Audits, because real resonance is better than reach

I’m still showing up. Just differently.
From a place of desire, not demand.
From my design, not someone else’s blueprint.

🌀 Part 5: If You Feel This Too…

If you’re listening to this and thinking, “Oh my gosh, I thought it was just me,” it’s not.

You’re not lazy.
You’re not inconsistent.
You’re not “bad at marketing.”

You’re likely just building in a way that was never meant for you.
And if your body is begging you to stop … it’s because it knows something your mind hasn’t caught up to yet.

🎯 Final Invitation

If you want support building your business in a way that fits using your Human Design to guide your niche, your message, your offers, your marketing rhythm…. let’s talk. HERE!

I’m offering free Magnetic Business Audits where we explore what’s actually aligned for you and how to build a business that feels like you.

💛 Book your call

Until then, go trust your energy.
It’s always been the strategy.